Struggling with Porn?

It’s one thing to read all the stats about porn addiction and how many struggle with it but the bottom line is, how do we deal with it? Then there’s that lingering question: am I addicted or just struggling?

In our society pornography has become so accessible it’s unbelievable, from your phone you can get all you want and now we are using laptops even better. But I want to tell you that pornography eats the inside of you.. It makes you lust and have imaginary sex with people you don’t know. When you go to your wife you can’t even ejaculate coz all the steam if off the internet … The more you do it .. you become an addict and soon you will be hurting ladies all over ..but you will never get sexual satisfaction. Sexual satisfaction is not just an orgasm but it’s a connection with the one you love and have chosen for life, it’s so deep that it’s not worth porn at all. Others still will have sex with their wife as they watch a porn movie or magazine, my dears please stop you are not making love you are using your wife to ejaculate and not really making love.

But you can deal with it and what you need to do is first accept that haiya! there is a problem …what can I do about it? And it comes down to three things: triggers, pathways and what we will do about it. Triggers are the things that get your brain thinking about porn.  Pay attention to what happens just before you go looking for porn.  Are you bored? Tired?  Has there been a lack of sex with your wife. (Women lets have sex with our husbands)

Next, look at the pathway you use to get the porn. How easy is it for you to get it? Boredom and tiredness are huge factors why men turn to porn so deal with pathways. Make it difficult to get to. Put internet filters on your computer/laptop and the phone just disable internet access. Do whatever it takes during the times you don’t feel the urge so that you protect yourself when you do.

Here is the crux of the whole deal: now that you have observed your triggers and pathways what will you do to change? I have a challenge for you when you feel the urge to go check out porn., do something to build your marriage by doing a service that honors your wife or something that she loves you to do for her … or be outrageous go wash the dishes play with the kids …just do something that will make her so happy.

If you are thinking, “I can do that. No problem.” you’re fooling yourself.  In fact it is a struggle greater than men want to admit.  I know men who need strength that comes from outside of them.  They ask help from Jesus. Ask for His power and strength to deal with it and to do what is right.  Does it work?  Oh yes, I dare you to try it.

Some tips on how to stop this bad habit

You need to admit you have a problem, realize just how much damage porn addiction has had or can do to your life and your relationships, after looking at these things now ask yourself if you really want to know how to stop porn addiction? OR are you just hoping there is an easy one click cure?

Porn addiction is one of the most difficult addictions to overcome. Millions of people around the world struggle with overcoming this powerful vice once they acknowledge they have a problem. It’s been compared to cocaine addiction because of similar neurochemical activity in the brain.

Some people struggle with a masturbation addiction as well as porn addiction. Masturbating and reaching climax only strengthens your addiction to porn more. If you only struggle with only masturbation addiction then you still have a chemical dependency on the brains neurochemicals. Your brain does not see the difference between healthy sex with your spouse and releasing the chemicals yourself. So you become addicted to the easiest way to release the chemicals which is alone and doing the act far too often in some cases.

One question you need to ask yourself when doing it … when did my hand become a virgina? The more you ask that the more you will not like the idea of masturbating. Some people argue its health and the best way to realize the urge lakini that is not true … the ones struggling can tell you they hate and wish to stop but its hard work and commitment, so if you are about to start please stop right there, if you are an addict there is help.